Perfection

Perfection is compulsive. Perfection is a myth. Perfection is judgement. Perfection is failure. Perfection is frustration. Perfection is unhappiness. Perfection is vulnerability. Perfection is a curse. Perfection only exists in imperfection… …in nature …and in maths.

Structuralism

I am not one for theories. Studying Chomsky’s Generative Grammar at university had put an end to my career in theoretical linguistics. Even though, linguistics was by far my preferred subject (syntax, phonetics, morphology, semantics, you name it…); building a ‘universal grammar’ felt like having gone about a hundred extrapolations too far. Like building a…

Holding Hands

I never held my children’s hands. Or, to be precise: I never made them hold mine. Growing up, I associated holding hands with suppression, fear and embarrassment. When people, who said they loved me, squeezed my hand too tight or even scratched me in the palm for minor offences like not saying ‘hello’ to acquaintances….

My brain

One of my friends has posted a little video on Facebook about how ‘Studying other languages actually changes the structure of your brain’. This set me thinking. I remembered one of my favourite uncles who I once visited with my family in Vienna when I was about eight. He was a second generation American-Hungarian who…

Childhood

I just wish everyone knew that all children are born good. That all children are perfect and innocent and that they are hopelessly vulnerable in their unconditional devotion to their carers. That they are determined to love them at any cost because their lives literally depend on them. I wish all people knew the anxiety…

Purpose

Today’s daily prompt on WordPress is Purpose. I would like to share with you my beautiful teenager’s theory on Purpose. She thinks that the purpose of life for all (people and animals alike) is to achieve happiness and to avoid suffering. Sounds Buddhist doesn’t it? She thinks that every one of our actions can be…